Why did I stay? I'm sure you've asked yourself that question by
now. The truth is I ask myself the same question. I could say because I felt as though I didnt deserve better, I could say
I felt somehow trapped. I will also tell you there were good times, there is an entirely different side to John, his sober
side. He is a man who is not comfortable in his own skin unless he's drunk or high. As 'in your face' as he is when high,
he can barely look you in the eye when he's sober. I could also say that I thought I could save him, ultimately I had to save
myself and my son.
There are no easy answers to this question, perhaps
a more important question is how does she leave, instead of why does she stay. The foremost reason I stayed was fear, not
fear of him, but fear of where I would go once I left, how would I support Bishop and myself. Do not waste time asking your
friend, sister, mother why she stays, tell her instead how she can leave, where she can go. Go to the links on the resource
page for assistance.